domestic violence: are violent men so on purpose?

Domestic violence: are violent men so on purpose?

October 16, 2025

By Camille Gaubert THE Subscribers

Step by step, the strategy used by perpetrators of domestic violence to control their victims creates an addiction so effective that it works even without financial or geographical dependence, explain two criminologists. A manipulative strategy that they consider "deliberate", but which could in certain cases remain unconscious, qualifies a clinical psychologist working in particular in remand centers.

In 2023, security services recorded 271,000 victims of domestic violence, reports the Ministry of the Interior.

In 2023, security services recorded 271,000 victims of violence committed by their partner or ex-partner, an increase of 10% compared to 2022, reports the Ministry of the Interior.

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“ It's really like when people say they're on drugs and, you know, they steal, they do whatever. I totally get it. I feel like I'll do anything to get it. Like drugs, in a way."The addiction from which young Eva (name changed) suffers is not to a substance, but to a man whose violence she has nevertheless suffered." The attachment established by the perpetrator of domestic violence becomes the primary control mechanism, instead of threats, force, or confinement.", says to Science and Future criminologist Mags Lesiak, a specialist in domestic violence and addiction at the University of Cambridge (United Kingdom), and her colleague Loraine Gelsthorpe interviewed 18 victims who were financially and geographically independent of their tormentors, like Eva, yet stuck in the relationship, as if struggling with an addiction, they conclude in the journal Violence Against Women.

271,000 women in 2023 were recorded by the security services as victims of violence committed by their partner or ex-partner, an increase of 10% compared to 2022, reports the Ministry of the Interior. 64% were physical violence, 31% verbal or psychological violence and 4% sexual violence.

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